Get Married To a Foreigner
I do not represent any dating agency. I am just an interpreter and translator and as an interpreter I most often work for foreign men who come to the CIS so as to find a wife here. So I have accumulated enough experience in this field to share with both men and women. But in this English version of my site I will address primarily men for natural reasons.
The first question that you may ask is: “Is it real to get married over the Internet?”. I will just ask: is it real, for instance, to find a job over the Internet? I think that the same applies here. You know that the Internet is similar to the real life in many aspects. Everything depends, but the main thing is that it is quite possible to meet someone and get married over the Internet as many people have already done. However, it is not that simple… You have to spend a whole lot of money, time and effort, and you can be sure that you will be disappointed more than once and will lose something, probably money. If you are ready both in mind and moneywise, read on. Consider it a disclaimer: everything is as it is.
- Russian girls are very beautiful. What is more, they do their best to be beautiful and look nice no matter if they have a husband or stay at home alone, go out or to work or shopping. Do you know the French saying, that if a woman is ugly at 18 it is Nature’s fault, but if she is ugly at 40, it is her own fault? Well, most Russian women are not faulty, so to say. They try and very often succeed to be beautiful no matter how old they are, and if they are ugly at 18, they will most likely be beautiful at 30 rather than at 40 as Frenchwomen do (according to the saying). Another aspect is not just the beauty but the talent to dress and make up. Even the ugliest girl will look OK or even nice if she dresses up and makes up. On the other hand, you may not notice the most beautiful girl if she is dressed like a tramp, in an old T-shirt and threadbare dungarees plus she has not combed her hair for a few days
- Russian women are sexy. At the same time many of them have preserved the old values, so you should not expect them to be promiscuous. If you marry a Russian girl, she will not make you spend you first night in an armchair, as Scarlett in “Gone With The Wind” did. I once read a book about sex written by an American. She tried to persuade women that sex was fine and told about terrible ideas that some women, especially in the South of the US, had: “men have some strange things that they will try and thrust at me to the place which I use to urinate”… ugh! This book has nothing to do with Russian women at all
- Russian wives are loyal. They do not have the habit of leaving the husband the moment he is fired or goes bust. In Russia it often happens that the husband is a loafer and drunkard, and the woman makes a living and provides for the entire family including children. A Western woman would most likely have divorced a long time ago, but a Russian woman will often try and avoid it and if she does divorce, you should not expect her to rip you off. (I understand that exclusions are possible and something that is contrary to the above may happen, but if you don't think about separate cases and consider the general trend, that is what it is)
- Russian wives have the good old family values that many American women lost. Generally they want to have a family, a husband and children in the first place. The career and society goes after that. Of course, there are some shortcomings, for example, a Russian woman will expect you to pay her bills and will not like it if you ask her to get a job; she would rather stay at home and care for children; but think, do you really want to have an independent woman who will try to be successful at work to the detriment of your family, home and children, and will dump on you when you don't suit her for some reasons?
- Very many girls in Russia get a good education, even though they do not usually work by their profession (due to the economic turmoil in Russia)
- It seems that Russia lost the Cold War, so what did the winners usually do back in the Middle Ages? Right, they took some ransom and women. So, you Americans are the winners and as ABBA once sang, The Winner Takes It All…Take our women, it is your booty; however, do not relax too much because every time an American marries a Russian woman, we have another secret agent in the US. (OK, it was a joke, if you did not understand yet)
Why Do Girls From Russia & Ukraine Want Foreign Husbands
- All women want husbands, it is their natural desire. Some women want to be active and look for a husband everywhere they can, including the Internet
- There are plenty of reasons why Russian men are poor husbands. Most of them are historical, like:
- slavery in Russia which was abolished just 140 years ago (unlike America slaves were white people) left a deep impression on the mentality of the population here. It is hard to be a real man if you have slave instincts inside
- overdrinking
- WW II bereft many wives of their husbands. A dead German soldier cost us five dead Russian ones. As a result, the women gave all their unwanted love and affection to their sons… and brought up a lot of irresponsible selfish sissies as a result!
Others include the poor economy situation which makes many people move their ass too quickly to think about their family. Alternatively, when you have no job, your wife will obviously be unhappy with you. But many men here prefer to stay at home and use the bad economic situation as an excuse for having no job, whereas their wives often support the entire family. Or they can have a job, but the salary can be so low that it makes no sense to stick to it; yet many men will rather die than try and find a new job
- many women have been married many times and finally got frustrated with their countrymen. They hope that Western men can be better
- some women, not all, look for a better life due to the poor economic situations here, some just want to emigrate and think it a good way to do it. Well, wherever you go there are always indecent people who try to take advantage of someone else, but you should not think that all women are the same, just like getting fooled by a Frenchman will hardly make you think all Frenchmen are swindlers (providing, of course, that you are broadminded)
- some women like America and think that American men are good husbands
OK, if you are not married yet, it makes sense to think about marrying a Russian girl. I just want to warn you that all the above does not mean that she will be your silent slave, ready to serve you at any time without discontent, to cook for you, to be your cheap work force if you run a business and to just wink at something that would have caused an American woman to call the police and sue you. Probably it can be said about women from very poor Asian or African countries, but Russia is actually in Europe. So, if you want a cheap dummy-wife, you had better look for her somewhere else. If you want a good wife, look for her in Russia.
However, a lot of time can pass and many things, sometimes unpleasant, can happen until you finally get married. You start on the Net, browsing through the profiles of Russian women on dating servers. Then you start correspondence with someone. And that is where troubles waylay you…
